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The English language was not made for us....
One of the biggest problems I've found within the BDSM community - or at least between the community and interested vanilla people is the ever-tricky problem of how to speak of the pleasure-inducing, consensual experience of what could otherwise be a negative experience.
(the biggest example being "rape" or rape-play)
In nature, everything is made of electrons and protons - but there are also small quantities of anti-protons and positrons which have the same properties as the normal matter, but opposite charges. Maybe this would be a good metaphor to use.
so... Antipain or Posipain. ;)
(I was thinking of this when mulling over how BDSM pain seems to genuinely counteract actual pain and stress)
EDIT: Actually maybe "Pain" should apply to the positive stuff and "Antipain" to the stuff that harms. The good, blessed stuff was here first. And the one sounds exactly how it feels.
Also, The two are the same at the root. the one seems to be just a perversion of the other. Like rape is a perversion of sex. I think that that's why rape/violence hurts like it does, because it's someone making your body respond - When you and your body should be one - inseparable, responding only to each other's desires.
One of the biggest problems I've found within the BDSM community - or at least between the community and interested vanilla people is the ever-tricky problem of how to speak of the pleasure-inducing, consensual experience of what could otherwise be a negative experience.
(the biggest example being "rape" or rape-play)
In nature, everything is made of electrons and protons - but there are also small quantities of anti-protons and positrons which have the same properties as the normal matter, but opposite charges. Maybe this would be a good metaphor to use.
so... Antipain or Posipain. ;)
(I was thinking of this when mulling over how BDSM pain seems to genuinely counteract actual pain and stress)
EDIT: Actually maybe "Pain" should apply to the positive stuff and "Antipain" to the stuff that harms. The good, blessed stuff was here first. And the one sounds exactly how it feels.
Also, The two are the same at the root. the one seems to be just a perversion of the other. Like rape is a perversion of sex. I think that that's why rape/violence hurts like it does, because it's someone making your body respond - When you and your body should be one - inseparable, responding only to each other's desires.
